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Wow, that's quite the list. Thank you for describing me so well, it's like you know me. 🤣 🤣

Seriously though, to the guys reading this list, don't let it intimidate you. This list is not a check list of things you have to do; it is a list of the ways it's possible for you to make a woman feel. Read it again, and realize that you as a man have the ability to make a woman feel this deeply. Let it inspire you.

Most women will appreciate the trying almost as much as the succeeding. And, even more amazingly, she will sometimes love you more in your failing, when you at least try. Most women have a natural nurturing desire, and when you bruise yourself for her it will delight her to nurture you. You won't hit the mark every time, no one possibly can, but you have to aim for the mark to hit it, and she will love you for the effort. But, if she doesn't, run. Men can be mean and brutal, but women can be nasty and wicked. You don't need such men or women in your life. I've been married to the same woman for 40 years, so I know a little bit about what I'm saying.

To the author: I sincerely hope you have, or find, a man that is able to bring out these feelings in you.

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'This list is not a check list of things you have to do; it is a list of the ways it's possible for you to make a woman feel. Read it again, and realize that you as a man have the ability to make a woman feel this deeply. Let it inspire you.' I love this observation, you have highlighted the nuance perfectly. Thank you <3

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Women who write like this.

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Are these men women?

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No.

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everytime someone asks what kind of man i'm looking for, i'd definitely share this writing to them. thank you for elaborating your thoughts into a piece so beautiful!

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This is one of the most beautiful things I've ever read in my whole life. I am so in love with my man and with my own masculine energy

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The therapy I didn't know I needed. Decdes of marriage and parenthood and I am in tears.

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I’ve never met a man like that, but it sounds nice. Even as a friend, minus the sexual aspects. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I resonate with the triggered comments just as much as the post itself. Thanks for writing.

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Thank you for writing this it’s so nice to hear an ode to healthy masculinity, and even nicer to hear exactly what a woman melting into her feminine looks like, in descriptive detail. Truly lovely :)

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holy fk. wow.

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Omfg exactly

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The pickmeness is annoying but what is more annoying is that this is.. not good writing lol it’s tumblr erotica posturing as deep. It’s just a different perspective, not a good one.

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Wow. My heart was and is still so happy having read this. Thank you.

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Duly noted. Approximating that man would probably have kept me married.

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That is quite a man you have described. I agree with all of it. Men need to rise to this level. It won’t happen overnight. And I think most men will fail at some of this even in the best of circumstances. But the kind of union between this man and his woman would be like the fifth force of nature. It’s making my brain hurt to imagine what could be achieved if every man and woman in the world lived like this. We’d have colonized and dominated the entire galaxy by now! Well done and well written!

Read and write on!

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I don’t think that colonisation and domination are aspiration-worthy, nor is achievement the goal of divine union, and I say that as someone from a colonized country herself. It’s beautiful enough to live as a part of the galaxy, revere the Great Mother and simply be humans in awe of it. 🤍 But I get how we all have our own way of understanding what power feels like.

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I was simply trying to make the point that men need to evolve. Society’s notion of what a man IS needs to evolve.

The men of now are not their grandfathers, or even their fathers.

And their sons and grandsons will not be them.

Today’s men need to start understanding women better. It will be beneficial for both men and women.

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Yes, indeed, that is very true. There is so much wounding and fear on both sides. May we evolve!

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I actually don’t think we need or were ever ment to understand each other. I think we need to be more empathetic to each others perspectives and journeys

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That’s a much more apt way of approaching it. I like it.

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💯💯💯

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God no. This is how manipulation starts. This is how men get started on paths that ends with them out of control.

They're not that difficult to understand. Look up the definition for capricious. Study it. Recognize it when you see it, or hear them say "I have a right to change my mind." Or "women's intuition."

Never get led by emotion or feelings as a man. You're too strong. You'll hurt other people very badly that way.

Feel emotion. Act according to reason and logic.

Feel emotion. Act logically.

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You sound like someone who was taught how to be a man by women.

This story doesn't usually have a peaceful ending.

See e.g. Alexander the Great.

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Busted! I mean, yeah? Maybe? I don’t know. It’s just a worldview, is it not? The assumption that macho men and distressed damsels are perhaps not the only social construct that can succeed in broader, modern civilization?

I have no desire to roundhouse kick every problem into oblivion. But I’ll roundhouse when it’s necessary. That’s all I got. Cheers!

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Worldview always leads to consequences that other people have to deal with. And women tend to be more fearful than men. I don't mean to channel Yoda here but fear leads to anger and anger leads to suffering.

Be careful of how easily you react to what you've been taught to fear, and especially of how you react to the fear of the women around you.

Not all fear is legitimate and they don't like to admit that because feelings are sacrosanct in woman brain.

Good luck to you. Enjoy life.

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i definitely have to disagree with the divine union part, how isn’t that aspiring? asking from genuine curiosity

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I’m afraid a lot of men won’t rise to this level because of ease of sex from promiscuous women, porn, etc. They simply can scratch that itch without having to yearn, pine, and strive these days. I say this as a man, and I recognize that men have tons of problems and it’s on us to sort them out, solve them, and be better. I myself am single at the moment as I’m trying to sort out my own personal problem and issues

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Omg god forbid a man out of control 🤣 this comment is hilarious. Thanks for the chuckle Chad

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🤍

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I'm a man, I've just seen this, what have I got to do?

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I got sick for two weeks and was changed into a more loving version of myself. It takes time, it can't happen all at once. I hated to read fiction but I started reading fiction again. I have realized I didn't love anyone, and that is why I hated fiction. Now I pray the ice on my heart will continue to melt. We have been demoralized, and need spiritual guidance to get out of our caves of self.

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Read feminist literature. Read self help. Go to therapy. Exercise. Stop drinking, stop using drugs. Try to improve yourself, one little thing at a time. Make mistakes but more importantly learn from them. Eventually a more complete man will start to emerge and that man can help others around him, male and female alike.

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Oh yeah, reading feminist literature will definitely get em soaked

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Just like with everything else.

Practice.

Get your reps in.

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Just pay attention

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